Design for Life: Should I tell my wife about the affair?

Each week we ask a different expert to solve your problems. This week, Louize Carroll advises a reader on what path to take after a marriage infidelity

Passivity and poor communication are co-conspirators in the demise of love and breaking of trust

Dear Expert,

Some years ago, my wife and I were having problems in our marriage. We were both working a lot and we had started to become strangers to each other. We weren't sleeping together and it felt a bit like things might be coming to an end, although neither of us said that directly.

We have two children and there was a part of me that felt that maybe we would wait until they ...