Design For Life: Should I let my children tell other people about my husband leaving?

This week, psychologist Aisling

Many people’s marriages have been placed under greater strain during the pandemic. Picture: Getty

Dear Expert,

A few months ago, my husband left our family. It’s still hard to believe that’s a sentence I would ever write. We have been together over 20 years. Our youngest has just started college. I feel ashamed and embarrassed and angry. May God forgive me, but sometimes I think it would have been better if he had died.

No one in our wider community knows, and I don’t want to tell them yet. ...