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Advice: Should I respect my teenage daughter’s request to keep her relationship secret?

This week, our expert advises a reader who faces a tricky dilemma

As our children move into young adulthood and begin having relationships, we have to evolve in our role as parents. Picture: Getty

Dear Expert,

My 15-year-old daughter is in a romantic relationship with another 15-year-old girl, whom I'll call Jane. My daughter and Jane spend a lot of time together, including sleepovers at our house. 
I'm fairly certain they are quite innocent, and so their sharing a bed doesn't bother me. Jane’s mum is not aware that they are in a romantic relationship, and has recently asked if my daughter would like to join their family on holiday. ...