The war of mothers and daughters

YOU’RE WEARING THAT? UNDERSTANDING MOTHERS AND DAUGHTERS IN CONVERSATION. By Deborah Tannen, Virago, €14.70

The adult relationship between mother and daughter is probably the most intense relationship women will experience.

Whether they are best friends or avoid talking to each other at all, what’s said (or unsaid) between the two women profoundly influences their lives. In You’re Wearing That? US linguistics guru Deborah Tanner attempts to unravel the mysteries of this complex, often contradictory relationship, by looking at interactions between grown women and their mothers.

Tanner believes ...