‘I have found myself becoming increasingly attracted to other women, particularly one of my wife’s close friends’

Ask Layla: It seems so much easier to fantasise about someone we have no baggage with and could be our object of desire without any ambiguity than to initiate hard conversations

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Layla Voll-Collins
April 30, 2024

“Consider initiating a conversation with your partner about missing the passion, without assigning blame but simply expressing your feelings”

Question

I’ve been married for nine years, I have two daughters I love and I still love my wife, but our marriage has become completely passionless.

We still manage our life and home together well and get along with each other. Our families are quite connected and from the outside, it probably looks like we have a very good marriage.

But the truth is, I no longer feel attracted to my wife and haven’t for ...