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‘My boyfriend has become very dependent on porn, despite my repeated expressions of discomfort’

Ask Layla: How can I address my boyfriend’s porn dependency when it’s causing discomfort and strain in our relationship, despite expressing my concerns repeatedly?

Frequent pornography use, especially online, can harm relationships by acting as a "supernormal stimulus“. This can lead to a decreased interest in normal stimuli, impacting couples' sex lives for the worse

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My boyfriend has become very dependent on porn, despite my repeated expressions of discomfort due to past experiences in previous relationships. Although I've tried to convey how his engaging with porn affects me and our relationship, I find myself grappling with uncertainty about how to handle this.

While I'm not overly upset this time, as this behaviour has become kind of routine, I can't shake the feeling of hurt that comes up each time. ...