The unrealised bond
Julia Bueno is a psychotherapist and author of The Brink of Being: Talking About Miscarriage. In this abridged excerpt from her book, she analyses why people feel unable to talk about miscarried pregnancies – and why they almost invariably say the wrong thing when they do
Around one in four pregnancies fails to thrive, and ends spontaneously in a miscarriage – most before they have been revealed to the world, or even suggested by the hint of a pregnancy bump. This event can be devastating, extremely physically painful, or both. And yet, despite its prevalence, we have long been unable to talk about miscarriage in any adequate breadth or depth. If we do, we tend to do so awkwardly, ...
