Design for Life: How can I pack away my personal grief?

This week, occupational psychologist Louize Carroll advises a reader who is having trouble dealing with the long-term aftermath of a personal bereavement

Dear Expert,

I don't even know why I'm sending you this email, but here goes.

My little cousin passed away nearly four years ago. He was just seven. My sister passed away 12 years ago and she was just 34.

Whenever I see birthday cards with “sister” written on them, it always gives me a jolt. It makes me feel lonely and separate from the world, like there’s a sheet between me and everyone. I ...