Design For Life: Am I the problem when my relationships break down?

This week, psychologist Louize Carroll advises a reader who wonders if his attitude to casual sex is changing his personality

Check in with how you are showing up to others. Are you open to them, or are you shut down? Illustration: Getty Images/iStockphoto

Dear Expert,

I’m a single man in my 40s and gay. Some months back, I met a guy through work and we slept together after a night out. I wasn’t interested in taking things further and I told him so over text. A few weeks ago, he sent me a long email out of the blue to say that I was emotionally manipulative and he had felt pressured to sleep with me, only to be ...