Design For Life: Am I the problem when my relationships break down?

This week, psychologist Louize Carroll advises a reader who wonders if his attitude to casual sex is changing his personality

5th December, 2021
Design For Life: Am I the problem when my relationships break down?
Check in with how you are showing up to others. Are you open to them, or are you shut down? Illustration: Getty Images/iStockphoto

Dear Expert,

I’m a single man in my 40s and gay. Some months back, I met a guy through work and we slept together after a night out. I wasn’t interested in taking things further and I told him so over text. A few weeks ago, he sent me a long email out of the blue to say that I was emotionally manipulative and he had felt pressured to sleep with...

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